how do you stay encouraged?/ an urgent cry from a newbie

so, on a recent post, a young natural cried for help... "i love your blog a lot. but i often struggle wantn natural hair and relaxed hair too. im still in high school. and peer pressure and society is mad hard in my lil town so if a girl wants to rock a poofy afro its all abnormal but i love my hair, relaxed and natural. but switching from one to the other breaks my hair of terribly. i need to